February 25, 2012
A few nights ago, my friends and I were sitting on the balcony playing Dominoes. We were teaching one of our companions how to play; and, with each new rule, she asked the question, “Why?” Americans ask “Why?” a lot!
“Why am I sick?” “Why can’t I . . .?” It seems that there has to be an answer to everything! Sitting on the beach in Mexico, I am amazed at how many people are involved with their IPads and smart phones. I wonder how many of them are asking Google, “Why?”
Sometimes, I think life would be easier if my native tongue was Spanish. “Por que?”, “why” in Spanish, is pronounced the same as “porque”, the word for “because.” I think living in a world where “why” did not require an answer might be less stressful.
As a doc, I spend all day, every day, trying to answer the question, “Why?” My credibility and effectiveness as a doc depend on my ability to correctly answer that critical question. Yet, there are instances when there are no answers. How simple it would be if “because” was an acceptable answer.
Imagine if I could answer my patients, “por que?” with “porque!” Life would be easier but probably not better. As children, we all played the game of mimicking what our friends said. While it was fun, if carried on too long, it became frustrating. Two weeks in the land of “because” has been fun and relaxing. However, much like the childhood game, asking “por que?” and hearing “porque” as a response has become frustrating.
It’s time to return to the land of “why?” and find answers where answers are possible, while remembering that, no matter how hard you search, there may be no answers. As in all things, the truth lies somewhere between our incessant need for answers and other’s blind acceptance of “because.”
One thing is for sure. Vacations are healthy and help make you Wellthy! Establish your own “Wellthy” account and deposit health in it on a regular basis. Not getting sunburned turned out to be easier than I thought. Walking 3.6 miles in the morning turned out to be more invigorating than I thought it would be. Frozen strawberry margaritas with your girl and your best friends while lounging in Paradise— Now, that’s beyond words!
February 25, 2012