Why Him?

September 8, 2019

I’m at a loss for words.  In August of 2011, I publish “I AM A RESPONSIBLE PATIENT.”  I actually have patients who follow the health contract as closely as possible.  Despite living a “Wellthy” lifestyle, they get sick.  Really sick?  What do you say to them?  To their families?  

“Bad luck dude,” just doesn’t cut it.  “G-d works in mysterious ways,” really doesn’t help either.  Do you tell them how scared you are for them? How sad you are that they are sick? In this circumstance, rather than asking “why me?”  the question is “why them?” So what wise and helpful thing can you say?

My brother is in the hospital.  He’s in trouble.  He’s the Segal that has spent pretty much every day of his adult life in the gym. He’s the one that eats a healthy diet, is happily retired with a thin muscular physique. He’s active; cutting his own lawn and walking the dogs daily.  He skipped the family curse, Parkinson’s.  Yet, he is now in a hospital fighting for his life.

Why him?  I have no answers.  What I do know is that his years of exercise and healthy living hopefully have given him the physical reserves necessary to fully recover and resume a normal life.

As to what you say.  Nothing at first.  At first, just listen.  Then let them know that you are there for them.  Let them guide you.  Sickness takes away your control of your life.  Make sure in your attempt to help your loved one, you grant them as much control as they can handle.  

Many of my patients have reached out to me since my surgery.  Their thoughts and care have been uplifting.  Thanks, guys, for caring.

Below is a copy of my healthcare contract.

Monthly Archives: August 2011

I AM A RESPONSIBLE PATIENT

Posted on August 31, 2011 by Stewart8022

August 31, 2011

I often refer to myself as a fireman pouring water on the flames that are burning my patients.  Often, I view my patients as arsonists, pouring gas on the fire I am working to put out.  Taking personal responsibility is a critical component of success in any of life’s ventures.  While my patients are very responsible business and family men and women, they often take no responsibility for their own health.  This blog has been successful at helping many individuals recover and maintain their health.  It has failed to help those who continue to be irresponsible.

In an effort to clearly define my patients’ role in their healthcare, I have developed the following contract:

I AM A RESPONSIBLE PATIENT

I, ______________, am a responsible patient.  As such, I take full responsibility for my health and my healthcare.  My responsibilities include but are not limited to:

  1. Learning how to promote my own health and wellness.
  2. Learning how to deal with illness, both acute and chronic.
  3. Actively working to eliminate those unhealthy habits I have acquired over my lifetime.
  4. Eating properly, exercising, and striving to eliminate those stressors within my control.
  5. Seeking medical advice when appropriate.
  6. Understanding the medical advice I receive.
  7. Asking questions when I do not understand the advice offered.
  8. Following the medical advice when mutually agreed upon by my doctor and me.
  9. Taking my medications as prescribed.
  10. Notifying my doctor prior to stopping my medication.
  11. Notifying my doctor should I have any adverse reaction from my prescribed treatments.
  12. Keeping a list of all medications, both prescription and non-prescription (including herbals, homeopathic, and nutraceuticals), that I take and who prescribed them.
  13. Bringing my medication list to the office at every visit.
  14. Knowing when I will need refills and not running out of pills.
  15. Completing diagnostic tests (lab, x-ray, EKG, etc.) in a timely fashion.
  16. Keeping my follow up appointments.
  17. Seeing consultants when necessary.
  18. Understanding my diagnosis, learning about its effects on my body and how I can help manage it.
  19. Studying and learning about my diagnosis.
  20. Being an active partner in my medical care.
  21. Notifying my doctor when I have added other professionals to my healthcare team.
  22. Being honest about what I am doing, taking, and who I am seeing.
  23. Paying the bill on time.
  24. Setting up a payment schedule when I cannot pay the bill and following that schedule.
  25. Know the rules of my insurance policy, what benefits are covered and what are not.
  26. Notifying the office if any contact information changes occur.
  27. Having an emergency contact listed should critical information need to be relayed to me.

My health is important to me, my family, and loved ones.  I will work hard to care for myself.  I understand that my doctor cannot help me if I will not help myself.  I expect my doctor to offer me his/her best advice based on his/her medical training.  I understand that, without my active participation, my doctor’s ability to help me is limited.  I understand that my doctor is the consulting partner, I am the working partner.  Working together, we can accomplish great things.

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