It worked; and, then again, it didn’t work. The mention of sex brought more readers to my blog as expected. It worked! The problem arises when I look at how long they stayed on my site. It didn’t work! My readers left fairly quickly. Yes, I look at statistics to define who my readers are and what they want to read. Stay with me today, I think you’ll find this article interesting.
But first, a story. Years ago, my buddies and I took a trip to Italy. Italy was fantastic, rich in history, wine and food. We traveled the countryside with a guide and one of our tours side trips was to Pompei. It was a glorious, bright sunny day when we arrived at Pompei. Mount Vesuvius was in its full glory. As we toured the remains of the city, our guide took us to the local whorehouse. Pompei was destroyed in 79 AD. Can you believe it? In 79 AD, men were frequenting whore houses.
I took lots of pictures with my phone camera. Due to the bright sun, I could not see the pics on the phones screen until we were back on the bus and heading away from Pompei. To make a long story short, I have 30 pictures of my forehead. I had the camera reversed!
You are probably asking yourself, what’s this got to do with sex? I promised it would be worth the wait! If men have been frequenting whore houses since 79 AD, why are whore houses still illegal? Yep, bet you weren’t expecting to read about sex for money, were you?
Face it, men like sex. So do women but that’s another topic for another day. Complicating things is the “Madonna-Whore Complex”. “Accordingly, Sigmund Freud developed a theory to explain men’s anxiety towards women’s sexuality, suggesting that men cast women into one of two categories to allay the uncomfortable dichotomy of fear and desire: the Madonna (women he admires and respects) and the whore (women he is attracted to and therefore disrespects). The Madonna-whore complex views women’s desirability/licentiousness and purity/maternal goodness as mutually exclusive traits”.
In my years of practice, issues surrounding sex played a large part in the lives of my patients. I saw both men and women for a multitude of problems surrounding sex, including infidelity and venereal disease amongst many others. It seems that, while men still desire Madonna in the kitchen and the whore in the bedroom, women eventually tire of playing whore and retire to a life of being a Madonna. What blows my mind is that this has been going on since at least 79 AD and we civilized beings still haven’t cum up with a solution. (Oops, naughty me, a misspelled word?)
There are a few places in the United States where whore houses are legal. Legal means regulated with set healthcare standards and requirements for appropriate safe sex practices (Do you think there should be is a sign in the bathroom, “ALL WORKERS MUST WASH THEIR HANDS .. BEFORE GOING BACK TO WORK?”) Legalizing whoring would also help put an end to sex trafficking. There are countless illegal brothels and massage studios nationwide that are unregulated and potentially dangerous.
Whoring is legal in Amsterdam. Best Brothels in Amsterdam 2020 is an interesting read. The author states, “The majority of girls appear intelligent, well-educated and confident. Talk to them like you would any other woman their age (possibly your intellectual superior). What’s your name? Where are you from? How long have you worked here? These establish a dialogue. Be interested in the answers.”
Of interest is that, while 4 out of 10 US marriages end in divorce, the Netherlands (brothels are legal) divorce rate is only 1 out of 100. I’ll be the first to tell you that I don’t know why the divorce rate is so much lower in the Netherlands but I would like to believe it is because both men and women have an outlet where their sexual frustrations can be met.
At this point, I’ve probably upset a few readers. That is not my intent. I’m happily married and content in my old age but there are many people who are not. There are many individuals whose only outlet is the Internet and the Internet is not safe.
From Psychology Today: Porn Addiction
“Pornography use is a widespread means of dealing with one’s sexual drives. More than 90 percent of young men report watching porn videos with some regularity, particularly in the United States. Many of these videos depict acts that they might never engage in themselves—in other words, erotic fantasies.”
“On Pornhub, the world’s largest porn website, alone, well over 90 billion videos are viewed daily by more than 64 million visitors, 26 percent of them female. Although viewing erotica is nearly ubiquitous among males, some men and women regard watching internet porn as pathological and believe that time spent doing so may be a sign of “porn addiction,” although such a diagnosis is rejected by many psychologists, as are treatment approaches based on addiction models.”
Others believe porn addiction exists. As reported by Fox news, “According to Men’s Health, the World Health Organization now recognizes porn addiction as a behavioral disorder. Dubbed Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD), the condition is defined as “a persistent pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges resulting in repetitive sexual behavior.” Oh no, I’ve got CRS and CSBD. Poor Renee!
Do you think whoring should be legalized in the US? My bet, 80% of men say yes and 90% of women say NO! Of thee 20% od men who vote no, 80% are probably lying. Do you think my readership is going to increase? We shall see.
I can’t believe that you’ve been visiting prostitutes for sex, my wife screamed at me. I’m really disappointed.
You can hardly blame me, I answered. It’s not like I was getting any from you.
Well, that’s your own fault, she replied. You never told me you were willing to pay for it.
How many prostitutes does it take to screw in a light bulb?
I have no idea. I did hire four prostitutes once, but we did other stuff.
I’ve dedicated my entire life to getting prostitutes off the streets.
For an hour or so each day.