I’m going to try something new. When I arrived home every evening after a day’s work, I would ask my father-in-law how he was and his answer was always the same. “It was a good day, I’m alive, aren’t I!” It never dawned on me that he could have felt miserable or bored or both, or that he could have bitched or responded to the question as I do. He came from a different generation, lived a different life and had different expectations of retirement than I have.
I find myself wondering whether his attitude actually made him feel better or whether it just made everyone around him feel better while he hid how badly he really felt. In retrospect, either outcome would be welcomed. So, when asked how my day was, rather than going into my usual truthful complaints, I’m going to say, “It was a good day, I’m alive, aren’t I.” I’ll let you know if it works (or, perhaps, you’ll let me know.)
You may be asking yourself why I’ve decided to change. The main reason is I’m making everyone around me miserable. Maybe my father-in-was was onto something. Maybe if the people around him were less miserable, he would be less miserable as well. Afterall, every time he responded, “I’m alive, aren’t I?” I smiled and ignored the fact that he might be achy, bored, etc. He was a bright man who cared for the people around him, never lost his sense of humor and overall enriched our lives.
BY the way. I think I’ve found my old friend, Will Power. I have written about Will many times. He’s apparently has been hanging out in Chicago and contacted me when I started contemplating visiting Chicago. Visiting Chicago is going to be a daunting trip, 3 days driving there and 3 days back will be hard enough but we’ll be in a hotel for 2 weeks, no lift chair and, at best, so-so handicapped bathrooms. In my current condition, visiting Chicago would be impossible. With Renee and my old buddy, Will Power, at our side and an “I’m alive, aren’t I” attitude, maybe I can make it happen.
“Will,” your first assignment is to guard the refrigerator and pantry and keep me out!
Here is today’s joke:
Willpower can make you rich..
..if you get in the right person’s will.