With the holidays coming up soon, Sara Debbie Gutfreund’s article on Aish.com entitled the “Top 10 Gifts Every Wife Wants,” is excellent and very thought provoking. The ten items she listed are:
- Appreciation
- Compliments
- Empathy
- Kindness
- Friendship
- Affection
- Respect
- Acceptance
- Authenticity
- Laughter
At first glance, I thought this was an excellent article and should be shared with my patients. As my readers know, I have written about the surge in divorce I was seeing in my practice. Gutfreund’s article might be an antidote to the sickness afflicting my patients’ marriages.
Then it dawned on me. Should this not be a two-way street? Gutfreund’s article should have been entitled “Top 10 Gifts Every Spouse Wants.” Then I realized that the husband’s list needs to have an eleventh item listed: sex. Now where do you think that goes on the above list?
While we are on the topic, I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If momma’s not happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Why haven’t you heard, “If daddy’s not happy, ain’t nobody happy?” I suspect that the answer is that momma controls the eleventh item on the list.
