Medically speaking, what’s a guy to do when there is no right answer? My patient’s solution is often to ask me what I would do given his particular circumstance. He isn’t happy when I respond with, “I truthfully don’t know!”
In reality, I always know what I would do. I’d gather knowledge, see consultants, and explore every possible option to its fullest. Then, most probably, I would still not be sure what I would do unless I was in the situation myself. “What’s a man to do” is a very personal question with many, nonscientific factors to be taken into account.
Case in point. I’ve counseled many patients with prostate cancer. I know all the treatments available and the pluses and minuses of each approach. The common options include “watchful waiting”, some form of radiation, surgery, or a combination of the latter two.
What’s a guy to do if he has prostate cancer? This is one disease where the answer is difficult and the stakes high. Several years ago, I had an elevated PSA (screening test for prostate cancer) and an abnormal prostate exam. While waiting for my biopsy results, I got a chance to look at all the options from a patient’s point of view. I now know what I would do if my biopsy was positive, but my decision-making process was unique to my life and what I feel is important.
I counseled a patient with a precancerous lesion of his colon. A routine screening colonoscopy revealed a polyp (tubular adenoma) that could not be fully removed by the gastroenterologist and has the potential to become a cancer. Again, his options were watchful waiting with careful follow-up versus a surgical resection of part of his colon.
What’s a man to do? Watchful waiting means yearly colonoscopies and biopsies. In my early days as a doc, I saw a young lady with a slightly abnormal mole on her back. I started to advise a watchful waiting approach when I realized that I was watching to see if she might develop a malignancy. After I explained my reasoning, I removed the lesion. The pathology report came back as an early stage of melanoma, a particularly nasty cancer. Since then, I have not been a fan of watchful waiting. Luckily for my patients, I surrounded myself with conservative surgeons who provide a nice balance to my aggressive surgical leanings.
Colon resection is no picnic, either. To have a colon resection for a lesion that may never turn cancerous carries its own risks and expense. What’s a guy to do?
In the business world, it’s called “due diligence”. According to BussinessDictionary.com, due diligence is a “measure of prudence, responsibility, and diligence that is expected from, and ordinarily exercised by, a reasonable and prudent person under the circumstances.” A reasonable and prudent patient, when presented with a disease that does not have a clear cut treatment option, needs to collect all the information he can to define his options, the risks and benefits of those options, and the costs; then he has to make a decision and live with its consequences.
Life’s a bitch sometimes. Making decisions is hard work and you know you’ll win some and some you’ll lose. What’s important is being able to live with the results of the ones you lose. If you did your best to answer all the questions, to weigh all the choices, you’ll be able to live with your losses. If your decisions were ill-informed and hasty, not only will you have to live with your losses, you will have to live with regret, as well.
Until they invent a “retrospectoscope”, a man has to work hard to understand his situation, to know in his heart that what he chooses to do is right at the time, and to accept his account, whatever it is.
I’ve always said that, if you can make something good come from something bad, the bad wasn’t so bad after all. Somebody once said, “man plans and G-d laughs”. At least I’ve given G-d some good laughs over the years.